Waiting for an adopted family member is very exciting. Here are some things that you can do while waiting so that your time is productive. According to adoptive mothers, lawyers, doctors, therapists, and other specialists, these ideas are helpful and practical to do.
Updating your health insurance is a must. You can add your baby as a dependent just in case he or she needs medical attention, you already have it covered. (From Milly Smith, a mother from New York, who also happens to be an insurance agent.)
Make a new will if you still have an old one. Make sure to include the latest member of your family from the day he or she arrives. Also, it is best to state a guardian, so you can have someone take care of your child in case something untoward happens to you. (From Alexander Castro, a lawyer from Massachusetts.)
Find a pediatrician for your baby before he or she arrives, so you are already prepared for check-ups and other medical needs for your baby. Find a doctor that you are comfortable with, especially if your baby is foreign-born. Look for a clinic or hospital that is the most convenient for you. (From Lauren Miller, a pediatrician in Maryland.)
Research about childcare if you are planning to go back to work after your baby arrives. Even if you are not planning on childcare any time soon, this can help you with what’s available near you and how much it costs. (Susana Spalding, an adoptive mother from Washington)
Take CPR sessions and new parent classes if you think you’ll be needing it. You’ll be more confident when your new baby arrives if you do this so you can take care of your baby the best way possible. (Nikka Driscoll, an adoptive mother from Pennsylvania.)
Inform yourself about reading about parenting and adoption. If you are a new parent, it will help if you understand all aspects of childcare. Adoption books will help you know the way your baby acts and how you can make his or her life better by being a great parent. (Mercy Dennis, a family therapist from Alaska.)
Role transitions refer to life stage transitions and social transitions. This is a big one for new moms (and dads) who are transitioning to parenthood. — Jamie Kreiter, LCSW
Waiting for a baby is both exciting and nerve-wracking, and you can be more comfortable and confident with yourself if you try to do these things. Anxiety will be replaced by excitement and longing.
Choosing a name can get you and your spouse more excited. It can also be your time to bond and see the names that best fit your new baby. This activity will be fun, and you can be creative with the name you’ll choose. (Scott Rogers, an adoptive father from Texas.)
Spend time around babies, so you get an idea of what it’s like to be a parent. How they move, what they are like and what you should do in times when they need to be fed and other things – you can learn a lot by watching other parents or by helping out others, once in a while. (Kristine Robinson, an adoptive mother, and Doctor of Education from Los Angeles.)
Spending time with parents who also adopted babies will educate you well. They may teach you how to care for the baby and other realities of adopting correctly. It may still seem unacceptable in this world, but it will be more comfortable as time passes. (Mary Ann Cochran, a teacher from Florida.)
Parents are their child’s best advocates, and there are many ways parents can help their child integrate their biology with their biography. — Lesli Johnson, MFT
Take time to learn about your child’s culture. It will be easier for you to make the child understand (in the future) where he or she came from, and this can also be your way of supporting your child he grows up. So, if they have questions about where they came from, you already know the answers. This is especially true when you are adopting a baby which has a different race or ethnicity from your own. (Elizabeth Gross, a play therapist from Alabama.)
Preparing for the bedroom is a fun activity that you and your spouse can do together. It can help you bond while decorating and preparing for the arrival of your child. You can make it however you like and put a bit of personality in a room that your child will grow up in. (Andy Miller, an adoptive father, and builder from Wyoming.)
Go out and shop for your baby’s clothes and things. A baby will demand a lot of things like milk, diapers, clothing, towels, cot, carrier, crib, and others. This can also be a time to enjoy with your spouse, friends, and family while preparing all these things. In fact, doing this will also get you mentally ready for the coming of the baby. (Gina Smith, a psychologist from Hawaii.)
Record your thoughts so you can keep your emotions in check. Waiting for a baby is stressful yet exciting and you can get confused in a whirlwind of emotions. Recording your thoughts will help you align them so you’ll feel more grounded. (Patrick Ward, a therapist from Ohio.)
Exercising or practicing an old hobby will let off steam and pressure you’ve been feeling. You will be more relaxed and open to whatever’s coming next as you prepare for your baby to arrive. (Jack Cooper, an adoptive father from Maine.)
Spend time with your spouse so you can have a moment to yourselves before another member of the family joins you. Having a baby in your home will take up all of your time, so take it all in now while you still can have the house to yourselves. (Amanda Hess, a marriage counselor from Nevada.)
Don’t hesitate to discuss parenting with other people you know, and take notes on what sticks with you. — Lindsey Antin, MA, MFT
All of these ideas come from individuals who understand, and it will help you in preparation for your child’s coming. You can have a smooth transition, and your family can enjoy the arrival of your newest member.