Being pregnant entails numerous limitations. As months pass by, the more these restrictions heighten up to an extent wherein you can’t do anything but wait for the big day. Then after the baby is born, you’ll go into the full motherhood phase. You’ll get swamped with things to do that are kid-related for years until they are all grown up and able to do things on their own. According to Dr. Irene Milentijevic, “Regardless of whether you’re dealing with pre-existing depression, depression caused by a recent loss, problems at work or in a relationship, depression can cause negative effects on your mental state and on your unborn baby. As a mother, you want the best for your baby, which is why it’s very important that you seek help if you are depressed while pregnant.”
In my last post titled The Many Things Pregnant Women Need From Their Husbands (First Installment), I mentioned five ways on how husbands can help their wives while pregnant with their babies. I may have joked around a bit all throughout the post, but my tips were serious and real. If you truly love your spouse, then you’ll have to make sacrifices.
According to Dr. Rick Nauert, “A new study suggests a bad relationship during pregnancy increases the risk of infection in both the mother and the newborn. The study suggests emotional health can influence infectious disease in the mother and the risk can be transferred in the womb to impact the physical health of a newborn.”
Such findings are not surprising anymore. When a woman is pregnant, she will need all the support she could get from her partner. I remember when I was pregnant with my first child up to the fifth. (Yes, I have five kids!) My husband would always get me what I want. He would always put me first, and I was the priority. That’s because I was carrying our child (and of course, he loves me!). The feeling is so great, and all my pregnancies were smooth and less stressful.
Parents should consider and learn the options counseling for pregnant teenagers.
It is difficult enough to be a teenager. How much more if one gets pregnant at this stage of her life? Girls under the age of 18 are getting pregnant which means this can happen to anyone regardless of their status, religious beliefs, and race. Parents need to be certain that their pregnant teenage daughter will get the best support that they can get, may it be financially, physically, emotionally, spiritually, or mentally. There will surely be challenges that will arise along the way, so it is critical as a parent that we settle or handle things in such a way that will benefit our pregnant daughter and her child.
Teenage pregnancy is a typical talk these days. Girls under the age of 18 are getting pregnant which means this can happen to anyone regardless of their status, religious beliefs, and race. Make sure that your teenager will get the best support group in your community or an online setting like an online counselor. If problems may arise along the way, it is best that you as a parent would take it from a neutral point of view, and settle things in such a way that will benefit your pregnant daughter and her child. The bigger problem with teenage pregnancy is, “Girls who hide their pregnancies don’t get monitored and educated about how to take care of themselves. This can even happen with parents who do support their daughter through her pregnancy,” according to
With this, it is best for a parent of teenage daughters who are pregnant to accept the situation and learn to forgive your child. She will need your support, help, and love.
I have five kids, and each of them was a different child-carrying experience for me. On my first-born, I was only 19, and I realized that I was pregnant in the 5th month. My menses were irregular, and all those five months, I was shedding. I didn’t know then that it was spotting and my little girl was hanging on to her dear life inside my womb. If not for a routine checkup in school, I wouldn’t know that I was with child.
Most women are glowing and extremely happy during their pregnancy. But there are some who may feel a bit “under the weather” between month 1 to full term. Their hormones will release the “sad” vibes, and pregnant women may experience depression. Yes, you read that right. It is a condition known as Prenatal Depression, and it happens to expectant mothers all over the world.
A woman carries a baby in her womb for nine months. She suffers through morning sickness, weight gain, sleeping position struggles, and frequent restroom trips. From what Dr. Dawn Kingston said, “Plus, depression and anxiety can range from mild to severe. At low levels, they can look a lot like a mood swing.
In other words, being pregnant can be a hassle, and as a partner, she needs all the support and understanding she can get. Since you are the co-creator of the baby, it is essential to give her everything she possibly needs and keep her as comfortable as possible.
In my previous blog post, I provided some ways to support your woman when she’s pregnant. Being a mother myself, help and support from my partner during pregnancy never fails to boost my overall mood and drive to nurture my baby. Not to mention, Dr. Dawn Kingston said, “Bad stress is a major risk factor for anxiety and depression. Almost every study that has examined stress in pregnancy shows that high stress increases the chance of a pregnant woman developing depression and anxiety.” Trust me when I say that any sort of help is always appreciated and is a great way to bring your partner comfort.
It is frightening enough to anticipate, prepare for and bring forth a child. Many parents and expecting parents look to counseling, books, magazines and even other parents for the Common Dos and Don’ts of Parenthood. But how can we tell whether or not we are good, or if we are confident enough, great parents? Is it by the actions and behaviors of our children or the accolades we receive?
The human nature in us will want to compete or even go as far as to criticize the parenting skills of other parents. Although this is almost unavoidable, it is important to note that parenting skills and tactics should be dealt with on a case by case basis.
This is the last part of a four-part series about “I Remember Everything About My Baby’s Birth.” From Part 1 to Part 4, I have discussed my experiences (and memories) on giving birth to my five children. If you haven’t read Part 1 to 3, for entertainment and some bit of knowledge sake, please read them first.
Anyway, I will talk about my youngest child now, and how everything came about with her.