Dealing With The Anxiety Of Getting Pregnant

Getting pregnant can be tricky. Some couples can get pregnant effortlessly while other couples are finding it a bit harder to do. It may take them a few months or even years to conceive.

What should you do when you are having anxiety attacks over this issue? Before your anxiety takes over your blissful marriage, know the tips on dealing with it.

What Is Anxiety?


Anxiety deals with a wide range of feelings. You may be experiencing feelings of dread, worry, or intense fear. It may interfere with your daily functions such as doing household chores or going to work. You may also be having trouble concentrating on given tasks.

Feeling sick, dizzy, and tired was a daily call to the job I had to do in nourishing myself in order to be healthy rather than thin or fit or sexually attractive—which had previously been my holy grail. — Shirley Katz, PhD, CCC

Why Do I Keep Getting Anxious?

There are numerous reasons why you are getting anxious. Primarily, if you are having problems getting pregnant, there could be more underlying factors for your anxiety. You need to go deep to the root of your anxiety through psychotherapy. 


Many women may experience some physical discomfort or difficulty sleeping. However, if a pregnant woman has been frequently tearful, worried about the future, despondent, or has any other serious symptoms, mental health treatment during pregnancy should be considered. Cecelia Quinn, PhD., LCSW

Seek Professional Help

One of the best advice regarding dealing with anxiety is to seek professional help. You don’t want your attacks to get the best of you. Address it at once so that you will be able your marriage without the anxiety attacks.

Admittedly, there are many reputable psychologists in your area that you will fit into your schedule. If you feel you are not compatible with the first psychologist you meet, don’t worry. You can try meeting with another psychologist. Therapy is not easy, but you must trust the process. Some report significant improvement after one to two years of continuous talk therapy. 


What Is Talk Therapy?

Talk therapy can help you put your problems in a new light. During your first meeting, your therapist will lay out a treatment plan with your consent, to guide you through your progress. In the next sessions, you will have either a structured or free-flowing type of conversation. Your thoughts will be processed, meaning your therapist will try to dig deep on how you think. After this, your therapist will help you through good strategies on how to cope with your anxiety attacks. You will be astonished at how far you’ve come, compared to your first session.

Later on, you can join guided group therapy sessions. During these sessions, you will meet peers who are also suffering from anxiety. These sessions are a safe space; you can be sure that what you will be able to share your thoughts freely without fear of judgment. These people will be your longtime support group in the duration of your therapy.

The good news is that depression and anxiety during pregnancy are very treatable, as is postpartum depression. What’s key is making sure women are getting the proper screening at several points during their pregnancy and throughout the first year after giving birth. — Andrea Schneider, LCSW

Never Give Up!

Living life with anxiety can be tough, especially if your biggest problem is yourself. Every day is a constant battle with your thoughts, but you should never give up. There is still hope.

Remember that intense stress and anxiety can further lessen your chances of getting pregnant. Addressing these anxieties through talk therapy, as well as constant visits to your obstetrician will increase your fertility. Soon enough, you will be able to welcome your bundle of joy.